Do You Know Who Your Children Are Talking To?

• Parenting is, no doubt, one of the most stressful, difficult jobs you will ever do.  But, it can be the most rewarding as well, if you are diligent.  The world, unfortunately, will do more to make the job harder than it will to help you.  Sometimes, raising children feels more like being a bodyguard as we keep our eyes open and our head constantly swivelling looking for potential harm or danger.  We never want to let our guard down, because it's so easy for our inexperienced kids to wander into trouble before they realize what they're doing.
• Some parents have run into important ethical questions in the course of raising their children, and have had to decide where the line must be drawn between their kids' privacy and their own duty as parents.  We know the importance of raising a child to make his or her own decisions and to learn from his or her own mistakes, but we also know that some mistakes can be too costly to allow our children to make them.
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• Is Your Child's Privacy Over their Safety?
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• For example, what would you do as a parent if you stumbled across some unknown and unexplained number on your child's cell phone?  You've tried to maintain an open line of communication and you think you know all of your child’s friends.  They all come up on the Caller ID with their names and pictures, a feature your child is especially proud of.
• So who is this mystery caller?  Is it possible your child is mixed up in something he doesn't want you to know about?  What if it's serious?  Is it drugs, or cheating at school, who knows?  Now what do you do?  Well, the ethics of the situation leave room for deciding, and could paralyze you from taking action.  But, if your gut decision is that, in this instance, your child's safety is more important than their privacy, you have a few choices about how to proceed.  You could confront your child and demand an explanation.  But this puts them in the position of needing to either reveal something they don't want to (and wondering how many other things you've snooped into,) or lying to you, growing the problem.
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• Go To The Internet
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• Another choice you have is to check out the number yourself.  Go to the Internet and visit one of the many websites that now offer reverse cell phone lookups and plug the number in.  For a reasonable price, these sites can tell you whose number it is, and some impressively detailed information about the individual who has been calling your child.  Maybe it's nothing.  What a relief that is, when you realize your child is making good decisions and wasn't intentionally keeping anything from you.  But, if it's not, and if you now need to confront the child for their own good, at least you have the details you need to reach the child on his own level.   Yes, parenting can be a difficult, stressful job.  But, when it's done right, the rewards far outweigh the effort, and your kids will thank you for making such great contribution in their lives. 
• By Lucilda Evans
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Protecting Your Child

• When your child is little, it's not hard to protect him or her. In fact, it's pretty simple if you hold their hand tightly, teach them important numbers to call, and keep them close within your sight. However, as they get older, they require more independence. Your child may go to parties, sleepovers, concerts and more. It gets a lot harder to protect them, and sometimes you wonder if you’ve covered everything they need to know in order to stay safe.                                                                                                     
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• Being a Parent           
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•  You will worry almost as much as you breathe. Part of this is being a parent, and the other part is in knowing what you might have experienced as a child. There are certain things you can do to protect your teenager or adolescent as well as you can.Make sure you know where your child will be at all times. You can get them a cell phone, or have them call and check in. Whether they will be at a football game or a friend's house, it's important that you are aware of where they are and what they are doing. This way, if something happens you know how to get in touch with them or pick them up if you need to.
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• How Easy is it for Your Kid to Contact you?                                                                                                                                                                                     
• You need to make sure they know where you will be as well. Carry a cell phone so they can always get in touch with you. There are times that your child may need you to pick them up or get them out of dangerous situations. If they can contact you easily and quickly, they will be safer.Make sure you know who your child will be with. If your daughter says she will be with Janie's parents then make sure you talk with Janie's parents to confirm. This is very important for you to know.
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• Can you Easily get in touch With Your Kids 
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•  Understanding who your child is with is necessary in case you need to get in touch with them, and also to make sure that they are not with someone that they shouldn't be with. However, if you know that your child will be with Janie's parents, but you're not so sure about what kind of people they are, there is something you can do.Visit one of the many sites available for you to check someone out. By simply typing in a name, you can get access to information about their civil and criminal records, warrants, phone number and address and even marriage licenses and death certificates.

• How Sure Are You Your Child is Safe?
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• This will help you determine whether the person your child is with is safe or not. Never trust someone simply because they seem nice. Sometimes thieves, murderers and others that are up to no good can come across as being nice people. While most of the time, you will find that the people your child spends time with are very safe and clean, there are many instances where a parent took that for granted and ended up being wrong. You do not want to be one of those people who will spend the rest of their lives wishing they had just checked a little better. Be vigilant, and sleep well at night knowing that you have done your best to make sure your child is safe.
• By Lucilda Evans
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